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Best wedding traditions

27 Aug

I’ve had a little wine tonight, forgive any grammatical errors but wanted to write something fun, so here’s my fave. wedding traditions:

Most FUN: The Hora

The  Jewish wedding tradition of the  chair dance, which is said to be derived from the tradition of carrying royalty on chairs. All you need is a few strong and brave guests to lift the bride and groom high above the crowd on chairs to the sound of the song  “Hava Nagila”.


bride over threshold

Groom carrying his bride

Groom to carries his new bride across the threshold.

Groom carries his new bride over the threshold of their home… surprisingly, this is a western european tradition.  I never think of traditions as starting from western europe for some reason.  The belief is that if the bride trips as she enters her new home (which I totally would…) bad luck would plague her marriage.

Most INTERESTING: Bulgarian tradition

On the wedding morning,  the groom’s family and  his friends gather at his home. His friends pour barley over him and fire rifles into the air in order to ward off evil spirits. The groom then says goodbye  to his parents and requests their blessing. Next, there is a procession to the best man’s home. The procession is joyful with dancing and singing. The groom then gives his best man wine and chicken.  The best woman and the best man then lead the way to the bride’s house where they present the bride with wine, the bridal veil, candles and baked candies.

Once the wedding party arrives, there is much excitement and the bride is locked in a room.  Only the best woman can visit her until the groom and the best man bargain to be let in.

The best woman then tries to put the bride’s veil on three times; twice the bride rejects the veil and only accepts it on the third attempt. Finally the bride and groom are led outside, each holding the end of a long woven cloth where more rituals are performs to keep evil spirits away from the couple. Then the soon-to-be bride throws a dish filled with wheat, coins and a raw egg over her head. If the dish smashes into many pieces it is considered good luck.

– derived from http://www.worldweddingtraditions.com/locations/east_europe_traditions/bulgarian_traditions.html

Most WELL KNOWN: Something borrowed, something blue; something old, something new

The saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times.

  • Something old- the bond to the bride’s family and her old life
  • Something new- the couple’s new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success;
  • Something borrowed-  should grant similar happiness to the bride;
  • Something blue-  fidelity and constancy

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number One: Beating the feet with fish (Korean)

Yellow corvina fish

This is what you were beaten with

After the wedding ceremony, friends of the groom are supposed to take off his socks, then to tie a rope around his ankles and start beating the soles of his feet with dried yellow corvina (which is a type of fish). This is believed to make the groom stronger before the first wedding night.

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number Two: Blackening the Bride (Scottish)

Scottish also organize what they call “Blackening the bride”. For this tradition, the couple’s friends and family members will kidnap the bride-to-be and then pour some rather smelly substance on her.  Lovely!

SWEETEST wedding tradition: Lily of the Valley (Dutch)

On their wedding day, the Dutch couple gets together and plant a lily-of-the-valley. This flower is supposed to remind them to renew their love as the flower blooms in the spring (:

Lily of the valley

Lily of the valley flower


Play us a song, Mr. Piano man…

24 Aug

Recently, I was updating one of my 4 ‘wedding checklists’ and I noticed there is actually a bit of planning needed for the musical element of our big day.   Of all the times I’ve thought about the first dance song, I’ve never considered there would be much needed for the rest of the day. Wrong!

There’s ceremony music, cocktail hour music, and reception music, first dance, cake cutting dance, father daughter and mother and son dances..

For the ceremony at my church, I figured we could just play some recorded music like Cannon in D… but then it occurred to me that might not be long enough (I’ve noticed some people put it on a huge loop), but what do we play it from?  I think my church has an organ, choir but not sure about a cd player hooked up to the sound system.   Do we need a singer, or an organ player (or similar)?  Where do you even find those people?    Considering outsourcing this job to the “Wedding Committee” which I have heard a lot about but haven’t met yet, (consisting of my mom’s good friends).

The cocktail hour should be much easier – my mom happens to know a piano player, and there is a piano in the main cocktail area near the fireplace, so it should be relatively easy as long as he’s available.

Piano player

If not, we should be able to put together some Frank Sinatra type music as long as KCC has a sound system.  It seems like they should have one.  I also really like Natalie Cole.  When I was young, my mom used to play her music and it always stuck with me.  Especially L-O-V-E and Straighten up and Fly Right (:

Reception music should be relatively straight forward, I figure we can just get a DJ and call it a day.  I’m sure it will not be that easy, and will require a bit of legwork to see a few examples and meet people.  Honestly, I have no clue how to actually pick a DJ.  The good news is, I’ve contracted this work to Drew!  The only question now is, how many times will I have to ask Drew about this before it gets done? (;

To end with a quote:

Music is the wine that fills the cup of silence.  ~Robert Fripp

Which month is best to marry?

12 Aug

According to superstition, which month should you get married in? Found this rhyme on a cute site called Wedding Facts, Fables and Fairy Tales (http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wedding_facts.php)

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:
Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true. (Yay, Katie!)

Laboring for his daily bread

He must have been married in July

When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know. (Yikes)
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day. (Good thing that didn’t work out for us!)
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go. (Skutchie, you’re in luck!  A life of travel)
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bread. (Me & Drew, Cathy & Mike)
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine. (Tara & Tim, living on easy street)
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. (Right, Mom?)
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

Looks like Drew and I will be laboring for our daily bread…. whatever that means.  I guess we will be working hard to put food on the table.

Here’s some more interesting ones:

Good Omens for the day of your wedding:

  • Rainbow
  • Meeting a black cat (is that the same as seeing a black cat?  What if its a planned meeting for good luck?)
  • Sun shining
  • Meeting a chimney sweep (seems unlikely this would happen…)

Bad Omens:

  • It is bad luck for the bride to start down the aisle on time.  (Mom, you could probably help me on this one…. ha!)

The week before your wedding:

  • It’s considered good luck to have a cat eat out of your left shoe. (Gross, and what is with all this cat stuff

Don’t walk under any ladders today!

The Upswing

11 Aug

My groom, who has had very few comments, opinions (or contributions so far) to the wedding planning informed me on vacation that it is vital we get married on :30 after the hour instead of on the hour, for whichever hour we choose to get married.  In our case, its either 2:00pm or 2:30pm.

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Its an easy concession for me to make because it doesn’t matter a lot to me exactly what time we get married, and ultimately, it helps because we have more time to get ready; out of towners have more time to get there; etc.

I was wondering though, where this superstition came from.  I like traditions and enjoy reading old wives tales.  One thing I’m going to do for tradition is wear my veil over my head as I walk down the aisle.  I don’t think I’ve seen any of my friends or any brides do that before, but I knew it was an old tradition.  Plus, we got a beautiful veil, and I think its kind of romantic.

So anyway, I tried to do a little research but came up very short on why this superstition about the upswing came to be.  Here’s what I found:

1. Don’t marry when the clock’s hands are in the down position.

2. You should say your vows only when the clock’s second hand is in the up position.

3. If you take the time to coordinate your vows as the hand is going up it shows your willingness to work together.

I did find a pretty fun site with lots of other wedding superstitions, so plan on seeing more in the future!

PS – Apparently a bride should wear the veil over her face as she walks down the aisle to protect her from evil spirits.


8 Jul

Update on the overall checklist:

[updated: 8/24/10]

Church > Done. St Francis De Sales

Reception site > Done. Kenwood Country Club

Florist > Done. The Tulip Tree

Dress & Veil > Done.  European Bridal.

Photographer > Done. Neysa Ruhl Photography.

Hotel block > Done.  Hampton Suites.

Engagement photographer and location > Done. Paris/Mark Elias; Cincy/Neysa Ruhl

Day Of planner > Done.  Friend from work with experience.

Something Borrowed > Done.  Borrowing Mom’s necklace/earrings & brooch

1. Cake > TBD

2. Bridesmaid dresses > TBD, dress trying on days in August with Kelli, Jenny & Tara

3. Floral arrangments (centerpieces, bouquets, etc) > TBD, need to set meeting with Tulip Tree

3. Rehearsal dinner > In Progress (Drew is in charge)

4. Honeymoon > ! Avoid places with hurricanes.

6. Wedding bands > TBD

7. Groom attire > TBD

8. Invitations > TBD (Drew claims to want involvement in this activity)

9. Transportation > TBD (Drew is in charge)

10. DJ > TBD (Drew is in charge)

11. Decorations > TBD

  • (30) 5×7 pictures of cars with titles for tables
  • Purple napkins (Need to confirm they are no add’t cost with KCC)
  • Purple votives > Done (90)
  • Vases
  • Tea lights

12. Fitting/dress alterations/dry clean

13. Hair appointment/practice do > TBD

14. Makeup booked > TBD

15. Hair Accessories/Jewelry > In Progress.  Going to borrow Mom’s necklace and earrings.  Bridal hair piece in the works for DIY project.

16. Wedding shoes > TBD.  Not allowed to have shoes with stones in case they catch on dress – per Mom.

17. Registry > TBD > at Crate, BBB, Target (?), Home Depot

18. Something Blue?

19. Bridesmaid/Groomsmen gifts

20. OOTowner gift bags, maps, etc

21. Programs, name cards

22. Wedding certificate

23. Church classes

24. Ceremony readings picked

25. Ceremony music

26. Cocktail hour music

27. Photobooth