Tag Archives: planning for wedding

Cute (and funny) car wedding stuff!

7 Sep

car themed invites

Cute picture on car!


27 dresses…

3 Sep Strapless with side ruffle

In my estimation, a bridesmaid dress is probably the number one factor in bridesmaid happiness.  There are few other factors that can make your closest friends dread going out in public, feel self conscious, or just plain resentful.  The next worse thing would have to be a BrideZilla; closely followed by those shoes the bride thoughtfully bought while on they were on sale at Target, which unfortunately lead to sore, miserable feet.

I think my plan will be to allow the girls to pick their own style (within a few selected styles) and their own shade of purple (ranging from light to dark) so that each can hopefully feel really good about what they’re wearing.

I was disappointed AND relieved today to read that I’ve managed to select 2 of the biggest bridesmaid trends this year: varying shades of a same color dress, and purple.  I was disappointed because I thought my idea was so clever (although, it did originate from another bride’s wedding featured in The Knot, Ohio – should have known) and relieved because half the time I wonder if my ideas are too old fashioned.  Whew!  I might be unoriginal, but at least we’ll be in style (:

Although I’m giving choices, I’ll obviously need to pick a few styles.  Here are a few dress styles (NOT COLORS) that I think are cute – pics below.

Interesting neck dress

Interesting neck dress (remove the flower)

cute basic dress

Cute basic dress

Violet dress

Strapless dress

Strapless with side ruffle

Sassy strapless with side ruffle

Strapless with pockets and wide skirt

Strapless with pockets

We’ll always have Paris….

31 Aug

With our Paris trip looming only 29 days away, I’m starting to get more and more excited (and anxious) to get the details planned out so that everything runs smoothly while we are there.

As I’ve mentioned already, we are going to do some engagement pictures there with Drew’s co-worker who is a professional photographer for the car industry and apparently does have experience doing weddings on the side (whew!).  I have no idea how much time he’ll give us but I’m thinking we could focus on 2 specific areas: Montmarte & Eiffel Tower area.   For those of you who aren’t familiar with Montmarte, it is a very charming area with tons of outdoor cafes, shops, artisans, people bustling around and the beautiful view of the whole city from the top of the hill by Sacre Cour.

The only questions now are:

1. What are we going to wear?

2. How am I going to do my hair, makeup, etc?

3. Should we skip Eiffel Tower if that’s cheesy?

Montmarte street

Montmarte street

View of Paris from Sacre Cour hill

Artisans in Montmarte

Art on display on street

Best wedding traditions

27 Aug

I’ve had a little wine tonight, forgive any grammatical errors but wanted to write something fun, so here’s my fave. wedding traditions:

Most FUN: The Hora

The  Jewish wedding tradition of the  chair dance, which is said to be derived from the tradition of carrying royalty on chairs. All you need is a few strong and brave guests to lift the bride and groom high above the crowd on chairs to the sound of the song  “Hava Nagila”.


bride over threshold

Groom carrying his bride

Groom to carries his new bride across the threshold.

Groom carries his new bride over the threshold of their home… surprisingly, this is a western european tradition.  I never think of traditions as starting from western europe for some reason.  The belief is that if the bride trips as she enters her new home (which I totally would…) bad luck would plague her marriage.

Most INTERESTING: Bulgarian tradition

On the wedding morning,  the groom’s family and  his friends gather at his home. His friends pour barley over him and fire rifles into the air in order to ward off evil spirits. The groom then says goodbye  to his parents and requests their blessing. Next, there is a procession to the best man’s home. The procession is joyful with dancing and singing. The groom then gives his best man wine and chicken.  The best woman and the best man then lead the way to the bride’s house where they present the bride with wine, the bridal veil, candles and baked candies.

Once the wedding party arrives, there is much excitement and the bride is locked in a room.  Only the best woman can visit her until the groom and the best man bargain to be let in.

The best woman then tries to put the bride’s veil on three times; twice the bride rejects the veil and only accepts it on the third attempt. Finally the bride and groom are led outside, each holding the end of a long woven cloth where more rituals are performs to keep evil spirits away from the couple. Then the soon-to-be bride throws a dish filled with wheat, coins and a raw egg over her head. If the dish smashes into many pieces it is considered good luck.

– derived from http://www.worldweddingtraditions.com/locations/east_europe_traditions/bulgarian_traditions.html

Most WELL KNOWN: Something borrowed, something blue; something old, something new

The saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times.

  • Something old- the bond to the bride’s family and her old life
  • Something new- the couple’s new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success;
  • Something borrowed-  should grant similar happiness to the bride;
  • Something blue-  fidelity and constancy

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number One: Beating the feet with fish (Korean)

Yellow corvina fish

This is what you were beaten with

After the wedding ceremony, friends of the groom are supposed to take off his socks, then to tie a rope around his ankles and start beating the soles of his feet with dried yellow corvina (which is a type of fish). This is believed to make the groom stronger before the first wedding night.

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number Two: Blackening the Bride (Scottish)

Scottish also organize what they call “Blackening the bride”. For this tradition, the couple’s friends and family members will kidnap the bride-to-be and then pour some rather smelly substance on her.  Lovely!

SWEETEST wedding tradition: Lily of the Valley (Dutch)

On their wedding day, the Dutch couple gets together and plant a lily-of-the-valley. This flower is supposed to remind them to renew their love as the flower blooms in the spring (:

Lily of the valley

Lily of the valley flower

Play us a song, Mr. Piano man…

24 Aug

Recently, I was updating one of my 4 ‘wedding checklists’ and I noticed there is actually a bit of planning needed for the musical element of our big day.   Of all the times I’ve thought about the first dance song, I’ve never considered there would be much needed for the rest of the day. Wrong!

There’s ceremony music, cocktail hour music, and reception music, first dance, cake cutting dance, father daughter and mother and son dances..

For the ceremony at my church, I figured we could just play some recorded music like Cannon in D… but then it occurred to me that might not be long enough (I’ve noticed some people put it on a huge loop), but what do we play it from?  I think my church has an organ, choir but not sure about a cd player hooked up to the sound system.   Do we need a singer, or an organ player (or similar)?  Where do you even find those people?    Considering outsourcing this job to the “Wedding Committee” which I have heard a lot about but haven’t met yet, (consisting of my mom’s good friends).

The cocktail hour should be much easier – my mom happens to know a piano player, and there is a piano in the main cocktail area near the fireplace, so it should be relatively easy as long as he’s available.

Piano player

If not, we should be able to put together some Frank Sinatra type music as long as KCC has a sound system.  It seems like they should have one.  I also really like Natalie Cole.  When I was young, my mom used to play her music and it always stuck with me.  Especially L-O-V-E and Straighten up and Fly Right (:

Reception music should be relatively straight forward, I figure we can just get a DJ and call it a day.  I’m sure it will not be that easy, and will require a bit of legwork to see a few examples and meet people.  Honestly, I have no clue how to actually pick a DJ.  The good news is, I’ve contracted this work to Drew!  The only question now is, how many times will I have to ask Drew about this before it gets done? (;

To end with a quote:

Music is the wine that fills the cup of silence.  ~Robert Fripp

Words of Wisdom on Marriage

20 Aug

Hello – wanted to share a few of my favorite excerpts from a book called ‘1001 things happy couples know about marriage’ my dearest friend Emily got for us –

From the Dealing with a Woman chapter:

*You need to know that what women want from their husbands is confidence that everything is going to be all right.

* You need to know to watch her dumb romantic movies, especially if she watches your dumb violent ones (for example, Transformers, Too Fast Too Furious 4, Alien v. Predator…)

*You need to know women like to make lists. And just when you think everything on that list is checked off, she’ll make another list.  (I get a lot of crap from him and others about all my lists!)

From the chapter, Dealing with a Man:

*I actually couldn’t find any good ones that applied!  Here are some where Drew broke the mold (and I find that comical):

*You need to show him what to do with an eggplant & artichoke.  First off, I don’t know what the heck to do with them, secondly, he probably does.

*You need to know he’ll drive you to the store to buy tampons but never go in and buy them for you.  FALSE!

*You might spend a fortune on a pedicure, manicure, new hair style and new makeup and he’ll never notice you did anything new.  NOT TRUE!  He always notices.

I can see this might be getting a tad cheesy so I’ll move onto another chapter: Marriage and Happiness

*You need to know that people grow fond of people who make them laugh 🙂

*You need to know that willingness to sacrifice your needs for your partner is directly linked to a happy marriage.

 Happy Marriages to all!

Featured car tables: Vintage Charm

13 Aug

As you may have read in my other posts, we are going to have pictures of cars to label the tables at our reception.

After hearing the Goedde kids (my Dad’s generation) Gremlin story for the millionth time on Wednesday night, I decided to see what this car was all about.  As I’ve been told, theirs was orange.  As the kids were watching out the front window for the exciting new car, they saw an orange car coming near and laughed to themselves, asking, who would ever buy an orange car?  Next thing they knew, the car pulled into their driveway.

The Infamous Gremlin

Revenge of Gremmie

This story reminded me a bit of my first car, a 1988 Ford Taurus.  Mine was nothing as exotic as an orange Gremlin, but it had a few of its own quirks.  One was the driver seatbelt we got from the junk yard; another was the power steering fluid which needed to be refilled about once a week.  And no air conditioning.  Ultimately, it could have been a lot worse and I’m grateful I had it!

Here’s one that looks like mine did:

1988 Ford Taurus

Looks like my first car

Which month is best to marry?

12 Aug

According to superstition, which month should you get married in? Found this rhyme on a cute site called Wedding Facts, Fables and Fairy Tales (http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wedding_facts.php)

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:
Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true. (Yay, Katie!)

Laboring for his daily bread

He must have been married in July

When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know. (Yikes)
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day. (Good thing that didn’t work out for us!)
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go. (Skutchie, you’re in luck!  A life of travel)
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bread. (Me & Drew, Cathy & Mike)
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine. (Tara & Tim, living on easy street)
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. (Right, Mom?)
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

Looks like Drew and I will be laboring for our daily bread…. whatever that means.  I guess we will be working hard to put food on the table.

Here’s some more interesting ones:

Good Omens for the day of your wedding:

  • Rainbow
  • Meeting a black cat (is that the same as seeing a black cat?  What if its a planned meeting for good luck?)
  • Sun shining
  • Meeting a chimney sweep (seems unlikely this would happen…)

Bad Omens:

  • It is bad luck for the bride to start down the aisle on time.  (Mom, you could probably help me on this one…. ha!)

The week before your wedding:

  • It’s considered good luck to have a cat eat out of your left shoe. (Gross, and what is with all this cat stuff

Don’t walk under any ladders today!

Photographer: Booked!

11 Aug

Last night we formally booked our wedding photography with Neysa Ruhl Photography.

We are going to go with 8 hours with 2 photographers and approx 400 pictures; a wedding book; and engagement book for people to sign when they arrive at the reception; a website with our images for 3 months; and a cd of all our images to keep for all of time!

The great news is, we can always add an extra hour later if needed.  It looks like this package will work out well for us though.

I just can’t wait to see myself and everyone in her pictures.  Seriously, they look straight out of a magazine (a really interesting one) and they are thought provoking and just fantastic.

Next step is to figure out which ‘planned’ photos we want to take, because one of my mom’s concerns is the lack of formality in the pictures without being told exactly how to tilt your head or pose.  I think its partially because that’s what we are used to with Elite, and partially just a preference.

Here’s her site if you want to check it out: http://www.neysaruhl.com/

Her blog: http://blog.neysaruhl.com/

Thanks to Catherine for the excellent recommendation!

Engagement pics in Paris

3 Aug

With all the work and vacation planning for Michigan, I haven’t put much thought into Paris!  We leave in 1 month and 26 days!  That’s not really too long, so I need to start thinking about outfits and locations, etc.

The only outfits in mind are a dress of some sort; my winter white coat (hopefully its cold in October otherwise I can’t wear it..); and this off the shoulder white and black striped shirt I got at this thrift store place in MI.  I’d like to get a cute trench coat style jacket so I can wear that instead of my full winter coat, but we’ll see.

My ideas for the photo shoot would include a walk through a market (we like those) and maybe a quick pose near a flower stand (maybe buy some); possibly a panoramic from MonteMarte looking down on the entire city; something with the Arc d’ Triomph in the background.  I’m kind of trying to avoid the kissing in front of Eiffel Tower picture.

Ideas, suggestions? (: