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7 months to go….

13 Dec

I started off this whole planning process on fire.  I was a planning master.  I had at least 50 borrowed wedding magazines (at $10 each, quite an investment), tons of ideas and tons of excitement.

Then the big stuff was planned and suddenly I lost a lot of my excitement and it became a to do list.  The DJ, the Shuttle, the Limo, the Readings, church classes…boooring!  I’ll admit that not a lot got done since August.

In the past month I’ve gotten some encouragement from newly engaged friends (thanks!) and it helped get some of the momentum back that I had been missing for a while.

So, a good place to start is always with your checklist.  What’s left to do?  What’s done?

Here are my updates:

Church > Done. St Francis De Sales

Reception site > Done. Kenwood Country Club

Florist > Done. The Tulip Tree

Dress & Veil > Done.  European Bridal. Picked up dress too.

Photographer > Done. Neysa Ruhl Photography.

Hotel block > Done.  Hampton Suites.

Engagement photographer and location > Done. Paris/Mark Elias; Cincy/Neysa Ruhl

Day Of planner > Done.  Friend from work with experience.

Something Borrowed > Done.  Borrowing Mom’s necklace/earrings & brooch

Bridesmaid dresses > Done.  Dresses finally selected!  We are going to do 2 colors. The first is dark purple with one strap for half the girls, the other is light purple strapless for the other girls.  Note: if you have tall bridesmaids, pick your dresses accordingly!  Make sure they offer extra length.  Only a few dresses at David’s offered that.  I found out that the dresses at Davids are made for a 5’9 woman, so they don’t work for people who are taller (unless its a short dress of course).

Wedding bands > Mine is purchased, at Eddie Lane waiting for me to pick it up.  Drew wanted to keep looking.

*Needs to get done this week* Names & Addresses for Save the Dates!

1. DJ > In Progress.  We’ve gotten a lot of referrals from friends, trying to set up a meeting with DJ Bobby Blaze (with Steve Bender productions) this week.  Honestly, this has been one of the least fun projects to work on.  Its so hard to tell if someone will be cheesy or not!  I can’t wait to get this part booked and over with.

2. Invitations > in progress.  We spent a few hours at Poeme (shop in Hyde Park) and picked out some invitations but we are still working on the fonts and exact styles to use.

3. Church classes > In Progress.  We need to do Pre Cana classes on 2/19 at Raymond Walters and also meet with our priest for our ‘focus’ which is when we answer a bunch of questions about marriage, etc.   Any Catholics out there you can get this info at http://www.catholiccincinnati.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=458&Itemid=1305 then look at first marriage under Pre Cana.

4. Floral arrangments (centerpieces, bouquets, etc) > TBD, need to set meeting with Tulip Tree after getting vases from my cousin Alix in March.

5. Rehearsal dinner > In Progress (Drew is in charge)… I wonder if I should be more concerned we have done little on this…..

6. Honeymoon >! (Note: Avoid places with hurricanes & get trip insurance.)  I know people think I am crazy but I don’t even care if we go on a honeymoon.  If we end up with the house (that I hope we do), things will be super busy up until the wedding and it might be nice to have some time to enjoy the home!  However, Drew and Tara shot me down and told me I was crazy, so I’m letting Drew take over the honeymoon planning since I really don’t care where we go.  As long as there is wine and a place to read and sleep, I’ll be very content.

7. Drew’s wedding band >in progress

8. Groom attire > TBD

9. Transportation > (Drew is in charge) Mostly done.  Our plan is worked out and prices are mostly confirmed.  Just need to do the formal booking.  We are going to get 2 (10 person) town cars to take us to the church and back to KCC, and have a shuttle from the hotel to KCC for those who don’t want to leave their cars there.  Drew couldn’t find a vintage car that really inspired him (as he put it) so we decided it wasn’t worth the money.

10. DJ > TBD (Drew is in charge)

11. Cake > TBD > Mom is taking care of this

12. Decorations > TBD

  • (30) 5×7 pictures of cars with titles for tables
  • Purple napkins (Need to confirm they are no add’t cost with KCC)
  • Purple votives > Done (90)
  • Vases > Can borrow from Alix
  • Tea lights > Can rent from Catherine! (Need to make sure she has unfrosted ones)

12. Fitting/dress alterations/dry clean

13. Hair appointment/practice do > TBD

14. Makeup > TBD

15. Hair Accessories/Jewelry > In Progress.  Going to borrow Mom’s necklace and earrings.  Bridal hair piece in the works for DIY project.

16. Wedding shoes > TBD.  Not allowed to have shoes with stones in case they catch on dress – per Mom. Looking for purple!

17. Registry > TBD > at Crate, BBB, Target (?), Home Depot > TBD

18. Something Blue? > TBD

19. Bridesmaid/Groomsmen gifts > In progress

20. OOTowner gift bags, maps, etc > TBD

21. Programs, name cards > TBD

22. Wedding certificate > TBD

23. Ceremony readings picked > TBD

24. Ceremony music > TBD

25. Cocktail hour music – (Mom in charge) > TBD

26. Photobooth > TBD

To help move things along, my mom and I have been Skyping on Wed nights to give each other wedding updates.  My goals is to work on this stuff while I have some time off around Christmas, so look forward to an updated list! (:

Play us a song, Mr. Piano man…

24 Aug

Recently, I was updating one of my 4 ‘wedding checklists’ and I noticed there is actually a bit of planning needed for the musical element of our big day.   Of all the times I’ve thought about the first dance song, I’ve never considered there would be much needed for the rest of the day. Wrong!

There’s ceremony music, cocktail hour music, and reception music, first dance, cake cutting dance, father daughter and mother and son dances..

For the ceremony at my church, I figured we could just play some recorded music like Cannon in D… but then it occurred to me that might not be long enough (I’ve noticed some people put it on a huge loop), but what do we play it from?  I think my church has an organ, choir but not sure about a cd player hooked up to the sound system.   Do we need a singer, or an organ player (or similar)?  Where do you even find those people?    Considering outsourcing this job to the “Wedding Committee” which I have heard a lot about but haven’t met yet, (consisting of my mom’s good friends).

The cocktail hour should be much easier – my mom happens to know a piano player, and there is a piano in the main cocktail area near the fireplace, so it should be relatively easy as long as he’s available.

Piano player

If not, we should be able to put together some Frank Sinatra type music as long as KCC has a sound system.  It seems like they should have one.  I also really like Natalie Cole.  When I was young, my mom used to play her music and it always stuck with me.  Especially L-O-V-E and Straighten up and Fly Right (:

Reception music should be relatively straight forward, I figure we can just get a DJ and call it a day.  I’m sure it will not be that easy, and will require a bit of legwork to see a few examples and meet people.  Honestly, I have no clue how to actually pick a DJ.  The good news is, I’ve contracted this work to Drew!  The only question now is, how many times will I have to ask Drew about this before it gets done? (;

To end with a quote:

Music is the wine that fills the cup of silence.  ~Robert Fripp

Words of Wisdom on Marriage

20 Aug

Hello – wanted to share a few of my favorite excerpts from a book called ‘1001 things happy couples know about marriage’ my dearest friend Emily got for us –

From the Dealing with a Woman chapter:

*You need to know that what women want from their husbands is confidence that everything is going to be all right.

* You need to know to watch her dumb romantic movies, especially if she watches your dumb violent ones (for example, Transformers, Too Fast Too Furious 4, Alien v. Predator…)

*You need to know women like to make lists. And just when you think everything on that list is checked off, she’ll make another list.  (I get a lot of crap from him and others about all my lists!)

From the chapter, Dealing with a Man:

*I actually couldn’t find any good ones that applied!  Here are some where Drew broke the mold (and I find that comical):

*You need to show him what to do with an eggplant & artichoke.  First off, I don’t know what the heck to do with them, secondly, he probably does.

*You need to know he’ll drive you to the store to buy tampons but never go in and buy them for you.  FALSE!

*You might spend a fortune on a pedicure, manicure, new hair style and new makeup and he’ll never notice you did anything new.  NOT TRUE!  He always notices.

I can see this might be getting a tad cheesy so I’ll move onto another chapter: Marriage and Happiness

*You need to know that people grow fond of people who make them laugh 🙂

*You need to know that willingness to sacrifice your needs for your partner is directly linked to a happy marriage.

 Happy Marriages to all!

Which month is best to marry?

12 Aug

According to superstition, which month should you get married in? Found this rhyme on a cute site called Wedding Facts, Fables and Fairy Tales (http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wedding_facts.php)

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:
Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true. (Yay, Katie!)

Laboring for his daily bread

He must have been married in July

When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know. (Yikes)
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day. (Good thing that didn’t work out for us!)
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go. (Skutchie, you’re in luck!  A life of travel)
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bread. (Me & Drew, Cathy & Mike)
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine. (Tara & Tim, living on easy street)
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. (Right, Mom?)
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

Looks like Drew and I will be laboring for our daily bread…. whatever that means.  I guess we will be working hard to put food on the table.

Here’s some more interesting ones:

Good Omens for the day of your wedding:

  • Rainbow
  • Meeting a black cat (is that the same as seeing a black cat?  What if its a planned meeting for good luck?)
  • Sun shining
  • Meeting a chimney sweep (seems unlikely this would happen…)

Bad Omens:

  • It is bad luck for the bride to start down the aisle on time.  (Mom, you could probably help me on this one…. ha!)

The week before your wedding:

  • It’s considered good luck to have a cat eat out of your left shoe. (Gross, and what is with all this cat stuff

Don’t walk under any ladders today!

The Upswing

11 Aug

My groom, who has had very few comments, opinions (or contributions so far) to the wedding planning informed me on vacation that it is vital we get married on :30 after the hour instead of on the hour, for whichever hour we choose to get married.  In our case, its either 2:00pm or 2:30pm.

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Its an easy concession for me to make because it doesn’t matter a lot to me exactly what time we get married, and ultimately, it helps because we have more time to get ready; out of towners have more time to get there; etc.

I was wondering though, where this superstition came from.  I like traditions and enjoy reading old wives tales.  One thing I’m going to do for tradition is wear my veil over my head as I walk down the aisle.  I don’t think I’ve seen any of my friends or any brides do that before, but I knew it was an old tradition.  Plus, we got a beautiful veil, and I think its kind of romantic.

So anyway, I tried to do a little research but came up very short on why this superstition about the upswing came to be.  Here’s what I found:

1. Don’t marry when the clock’s hands are in the down position.

2. You should say your vows only when the clock’s second hand is in the up position.

3. If you take the time to coordinate your vows as the hand is going up it shows your willingness to work together.

I did find a pretty fun site with lots of other wedding superstitions, so plan on seeing more in the future!

PS – Apparently a bride should wear the veil over her face as she walks down the aisle to protect her from evil spirits.

Engagement pics in Paris

3 Aug

With all the work and vacation planning for Michigan, I haven’t put much thought into Paris!  We leave in 1 month and 26 days!  That’s not really too long, so I need to start thinking about outfits and locations, etc.

The only outfits in mind are a dress of some sort; my winter white coat (hopefully its cold in October otherwise I can’t wear it..); and this off the shoulder white and black striped shirt I got at this thrift store place in MI.  I’d like to get a cute trench coat style jacket so I can wear that instead of my full winter coat, but we’ll see.

My ideas for the photo shoot would include a walk through a market (we like those) and maybe a quick pose near a flower stand (maybe buy some); possibly a panoramic from MonteMarte looking down on the entire city; something with the Arc d’ Triomph in the background.  I’m kind of trying to avoid the kissing in front of Eiffel Tower picture.

Ideas, suggestions? (:

Let them (not) eat cake!

20 Jul

Ugh, can we just skip the cake? Who likes cake, anyway? (;

Looking for recommendations on cake bakers in the Kenwood area. I’ve recently learned that transportation of the cake is nearly as important as the baking of the cake, and we don’t want any cracked cakes showing up at the Club on the big day!

I believe we might also have some assorted cupcakes, maybe we should have like 3 kinds of desserts, like chocolate covered strawberries (delicious), cupcakes, and cake. Would that be too complicated?

Help!

Listomania

8 Jul

Update on the overall checklist:

[updated: 8/24/10]

Church > Done. St Francis De Sales

Reception site > Done. Kenwood Country Club

Florist > Done. The Tulip Tree

Dress & Veil > Done.  European Bridal.

Photographer > Done. Neysa Ruhl Photography.

Hotel block > Done.  Hampton Suites.

Engagement photographer and location > Done. Paris/Mark Elias; Cincy/Neysa Ruhl

Day Of planner > Done.  Friend from work with experience.

Something Borrowed > Done.  Borrowing Mom’s necklace/earrings & brooch

1. Cake > TBD

2. Bridesmaid dresses > TBD, dress trying on days in August with Kelli, Jenny & Tara

3. Floral arrangments (centerpieces, bouquets, etc) > TBD, need to set meeting with Tulip Tree

3. Rehearsal dinner > In Progress (Drew is in charge)

4. Honeymoon > ! Avoid places with hurricanes.

6. Wedding bands > TBD

7. Groom attire > TBD

8. Invitations > TBD (Drew claims to want involvement in this activity)

9. Transportation > TBD (Drew is in charge)

10. DJ > TBD (Drew is in charge)

11. Decorations > TBD

  • (30) 5×7 pictures of cars with titles for tables
  • Purple napkins (Need to confirm they are no add’t cost with KCC)
  • Purple votives > Done (90)
  • Vases
  • Tea lights

12. Fitting/dress alterations/dry clean

13. Hair appointment/practice do > TBD

14. Makeup booked > TBD

15. Hair Accessories/Jewelry > In Progress.  Going to borrow Mom’s necklace and earrings.  Bridal hair piece in the works for DIY project.

16. Wedding shoes > TBD.  Not allowed to have shoes with stones in case they catch on dress – per Mom.

17. Registry > TBD > at Crate, BBB, Target (?), Home Depot

18. Something Blue?

19. Bridesmaid/Groomsmen gifts

20. OOTowner gift bags, maps, etc

21. Programs, name cards

22. Wedding certificate

23. Church classes

24. Ceremony readings picked

25. Ceremony music

26. Cocktail hour music

27. Photobooth