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Best wedding traditions

27 Aug

I’ve had a little wine tonight, forgive any grammatical errors but wanted to write something fun, so here’s my fave. wedding traditions:

Most FUN: The Hora

The  Jewish wedding tradition of the  chair dance, which is said to be derived from the tradition of carrying royalty on chairs. All you need is a few strong and brave guests to lift the bride and groom high above the crowd on chairs to the sound of the song  “Hava Nagila”.

Most ROMANTIC

bride over threshold

Groom carrying his bride

Groom to carries his new bride across the threshold.


Groom carries his new bride over the threshold of their home… surprisingly, this is a western european tradition.  I never think of traditions as starting from western europe for some reason.  The belief is that if the bride trips as she enters her new home (which I totally would…) bad luck would plague her marriage.

Most INTERESTING: Bulgarian tradition

On the wedding morning,  the groom’s family and  his friends gather at his home. His friends pour barley over him and fire rifles into the air in order to ward off evil spirits. The groom then says goodbye  to his parents and requests their blessing. Next, there is a procession to the best man’s home. The procession is joyful with dancing and singing. The groom then gives his best man wine and chicken.  The best woman and the best man then lead the way to the bride’s house where they present the bride with wine, the bridal veil, candles and baked candies.

Once the wedding party arrives, there is much excitement and the bride is locked in a room.  Only the best woman can visit her until the groom and the best man bargain to be let in.

The best woman then tries to put the bride’s veil on three times; twice the bride rejects the veil and only accepts it on the third attempt. Finally the bride and groom are led outside, each holding the end of a long woven cloth where more rituals are performs to keep evil spirits away from the couple. Then the soon-to-be bride throws a dish filled with wheat, coins and a raw egg over her head. If the dish smashes into many pieces it is considered good luck.

– derived from http://www.worldweddingtraditions.com/locations/east_europe_traditions/bulgarian_traditions.html

Most WELL KNOWN: Something borrowed, something blue; something old, something new

The saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times.

  • Something old- the bond to the bride’s family and her old life
  • Something new- the couple’s new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success;
  • Something borrowed-  should grant similar happiness to the bride;
  • Something blue-  fidelity and constancy

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number One: Beating the feet with fish (Korean)

Yellow corvina fish

This is what you were beaten with

After the wedding ceremony, friends of the groom are supposed to take off his socks, then to tie a rope around his ankles and start beating the soles of his feet with dried yellow corvina (which is a type of fish). This is believed to make the groom stronger before the first wedding night.

STRANGEST Wedding Traditions: Number Two: Blackening the Bride (Scottish)

Scottish also organize what they call “Blackening the bride”. For this tradition, the couple’s friends and family members will kidnap the bride-to-be and then pour some rather smelly substance on her.  Lovely!

SWEETEST wedding tradition: Lily of the Valley (Dutch)

On their wedding day, the Dutch couple gets together and plant a lily-of-the-valley. This flower is supposed to remind them to renew their love as the flower blooms in the spring (:

Lily of the valley

Lily of the valley flower

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Words of Wisdom on Marriage

20 Aug

Hello – wanted to share a few of my favorite excerpts from a book called ‘1001 things happy couples know about marriage’ my dearest friend Emily got for us –

From the Dealing with a Woman chapter:

*You need to know that what women want from their husbands is confidence that everything is going to be all right.

* You need to know to watch her dumb romantic movies, especially if she watches your dumb violent ones (for example, Transformers, Too Fast Too Furious 4, Alien v. Predator…)

*You need to know women like to make lists. And just when you think everything on that list is checked off, she’ll make another list.  (I get a lot of crap from him and others about all my lists!)

From the chapter, Dealing with a Man:

*I actually couldn’t find any good ones that applied!  Here are some where Drew broke the mold (and I find that comical):

*You need to show him what to do with an eggplant & artichoke.  First off, I don’t know what the heck to do with them, secondly, he probably does.

*You need to know he’ll drive you to the store to buy tampons but never go in and buy them for you.  FALSE!

*You might spend a fortune on a pedicure, manicure, new hair style and new makeup and he’ll never notice you did anything new.  NOT TRUE!  He always notices.

I can see this might be getting a tad cheesy so I’ll move onto another chapter: Marriage and Happiness

*You need to know that people grow fond of people who make them laugh 🙂

*You need to know that willingness to sacrifice your needs for your partner is directly linked to a happy marriage.

 Happy Marriages to all!

Which month is best to marry?

12 Aug

According to superstition, which month should you get married in? Found this rhyme on a cute site called Wedding Facts, Fables and Fairy Tales (http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wedding_facts.php)

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:
Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true. (Yay, Katie!)

Laboring for his daily bread

He must have been married in July

When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know. (Yikes)
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day. (Good thing that didn’t work out for us!)
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go. (Skutchie, you’re in luck!  A life of travel)
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bread. (Me & Drew, Cathy & Mike)
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine. (Tara & Tim, living on easy street)
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. (Right, Mom?)
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

Looks like Drew and I will be laboring for our daily bread…. whatever that means.  I guess we will be working hard to put food on the table.

Here’s some more interesting ones:

Good Omens for the day of your wedding:

  • Rainbow
  • Meeting a black cat (is that the same as seeing a black cat?  What if its a planned meeting for good luck?)
  • Sun shining
  • Meeting a chimney sweep (seems unlikely this would happen…)

Bad Omens:

  • It is bad luck for the bride to start down the aisle on time.  (Mom, you could probably help me on this one…. ha!)

The week before your wedding:

  • It’s considered good luck to have a cat eat out of your left shoe. (Gross, and what is with all this cat stuff

Don’t walk under any ladders today!

The Upswing

11 Aug

My groom, who has had very few comments, opinions (or contributions so far) to the wedding planning informed me on vacation that it is vital we get married on :30 after the hour instead of on the hour, for whichever hour we choose to get married.  In our case, its either 2:00pm or 2:30pm.

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Wedding clock on the upswing toward the hour

Its an easy concession for me to make because it doesn’t matter a lot to me exactly what time we get married, and ultimately, it helps because we have more time to get ready; out of towners have more time to get there; etc.

I was wondering though, where this superstition came from.  I like traditions and enjoy reading old wives tales.  One thing I’m going to do for tradition is wear my veil over my head as I walk down the aisle.  I don’t think I’ve seen any of my friends or any brides do that before, but I knew it was an old tradition.  Plus, we got a beautiful veil, and I think its kind of romantic.

So anyway, I tried to do a little research but came up very short on why this superstition about the upswing came to be.  Here’s what I found:

1. Don’t marry when the clock’s hands are in the down position.

2. You should say your vows only when the clock’s second hand is in the up position.

3. If you take the time to coordinate your vows as the hand is going up it shows your willingness to work together.

I did find a pretty fun site with lots of other wedding superstitions, so plan on seeing more in the future!

PS – Apparently a bride should wear the veil over her face as she walks down the aisle to protect her from evil spirits.